EtiquetteUpdated March 2026

Escort Etiquette: Guide for First-Time Clients in NZ

Essential etiquette for booking escorts in New Zealand. Learn proper conduct before, during, and after your booking for the best experience.

Before the Meeting

Hygiene

  • Shower immediately before your booking (many escorts will request you shower upon arrival; some offer showering together as a service)
  • Brush your teeth and use mouthwash
  • Trim and clean fingernails
  • Wear clean clothes
  • Light cologne is fine, but don't overdo it

Preparation

  • Confirm the booking details (time, location, duration)
  • Have the exact payment amount ready in cash
  • Arrive on time - not early, not late
  • Turn off or silence your phone

When You Arrive

  • Be discreet - don't draw attention
  • Greet the escort politely and introduce yourself
  • Place the payment somewhere visible (envelope on a table)
  • Allow a few minutes for the escort to freshen up or count the payment
  • Don't rush straight into services - a little conversation helps both relax

During the Meeting

Communication

  • Ask before trying anything new
  • Respect "no" immediately and without argument
  • Give feedback about what you enjoy
  • Be present - put away your phone

Boundaries

  • Stick to services that were agreed upon
  • Don't push for extras or discounts
  • Respect time limits - don't overstay
  • Safe sex practices are non-negotiable

After the Meeting

  • Thank the escort for their time
  • Leave promptly when the booking ends
  • Don't linger or try to extend without asking
  • Consider leaving a genuine review on the platform
  • If you'd like to book again, message through proper channels

Common Mistakes to Avoid

  • Poor hygiene: The #1 complaint from escorts
  • Being late: Disrespects the escort's time
  • Haggling: Never negotiate prices
  • Trying to remove condom: Absolutely unacceptable
  • Asking personal questions: Don't pry into their real identity
  • Being intoxicated: Arrive sober - a drink or two is fine
  • Taking photos: Never without explicit permission
  • Overstaying: When time is up, it's up

Becoming a Regular

If you'd like to become a regular client:

  • Be consistently respectful and reliable
  • Book in advance rather than last-minute
  • Remember their preferences and boundaries
  • Treat them as a professional, not a friend
  • Respect their privacy always

Regular clients often receive priority booking and may develop a comfortable rapport over time.

Frequently Asked Questions

Wear clean, casual clothes appropriate for the setting. If meeting at a hotel, smart casual is ideal. The most important thing is that you're freshly showered and well-groomed.

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